Love may require firmness

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Relationships teach us how we need to grow

Our relationships with relatives, friends or work mates can be challenging .In any relationship we need to be prepared to face what we are doing that may or may not be helpful. Occasionally there are things that will need to be adjusted. Sometimes that may be purely something we are doing. For instance we may be getting angry at our partner because we are stressed or overwhelmed. This is ours to adjust.
At other times what needs to change is our ability to stand up for what we know is truth. This will require courage to speak to another truly about something that needs to change. The best way to do this is clearly and with kind compassion.

An example of firm compassion at work

If we have a boss at work who is very controlling or micro managing. Staff may feel undervalued or constantly criticized, the boss is generally over stressed. In this situation it is usually helpful to stand up firmly for ourselves but not from anger, from compassion. The boss is probably very scared of failure too, all micro managers are. Understand where the boss is coming from, don’t judge the fear in him or her, all of us have fear. However stand up firmly for yourself without anger.

Love often requires speaking the truth, even a truth that does not want to be heard. This can always be done with compassion. Mia

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